Whether it's your best friend or someone you just met in an elevator, when someone gives you their undivided attention and really focuses on what you have to say, it's a special feeling that can create an instant sense of connection.
Here's how to listen more and better
- Listening to others means not controlling the narrative and trying to silence your inner voice. A lot of people like to be the center of attention, don't be that person.
- Be curious and interested in the other person. See every conversation as an opportunity to learn something new and expand your understanding.
- Be present and attentive. Avoid distractions and focus on what the other person is saying. Don't interrupt or jump to conclusions.
- Every speaker has to read their audience. Because you will need to speak at some point, pay attention and notice if your message is interesting to others.
So, next time they talk to you, try out your listening skills on them. Listen to every nuance of their voice, watch their body language, take in what they do and don’t say.