Get your way with better communications 🕺🗣️

How to Communicate Like a Boss and Get What You Want

Get your way with better communications 🕺🗣️
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Hey there! So, I just finished up my Coaching Graduate Studies program, and wow, did I learn a ton about how to communicate like a boss and actually get what you want. Want to know the secret ingredients? Well, keep reading and I'll spill the beans.

Activate a sense of identity

People are more likely to follow your lead if they feel like they're part of a group with similar values or goals. Using nouns instead of verbs is a great way to evoke a sense of identity. For example, instead of saying "I'm going to exercise," try saying "I'm a person who prioritizes my health."

Leverage emotion

If you can appeal to people's feelings, you'll have a much easier time getting them to do what you want. For example, if you're trying to get someone to take action on an important issue, try framing it in a way that makes them feel confident.

Be concrete

When you're giving someone instructions or making a request, be as specific as possible. People are more likely to follow through when they know exactly what's expected of them. Plus, using concrete language shows that you're paying attention to their needs and concerns.

Ask good questions

If you want to get people to listen to you, start by listening to them. Asking thoughtful follow-up questions shows that you're truly engaged in the conversation and interested in what the other person has to say.

François' Self-Reflection Questions

  1. Have I ever used any of these strategies to get someone to take action on something important?
  2. How can I improve my use of confident language when making a point?
  3. How could I incorporate more concrete language into my communication style?
  4. How can I be better about asking thoughtful follow-up questions in conversations?
Speak with confidence: Using strong, definitive language can go a long way in getting people to take notice. When making a point, use words like "definitely," "obviously," and "clearly" to make it clear that you're 100% convinced of your position. A word of caution. Don't go overboard and turn into a walking infomercial, okay? We're aiming for charismatic, not a discount blender ad.