"François, you have a quiet boldness to you," said my mentor coach. My reaction - "I bet you say this to all your students."
Many of us go through life without ever truly recognizing our talents. We may have received compliments on our skills, but we often brush them off, assuming that everyone else has the same strengths. This is a mistake. Identifying your true talents is key to finding fulfillment in your life.
So, how do you discover your strengths? One way is to let someone else do it for you. That someone can be a friend, a family member, or even a certified coach like me. Together, you can try an exercise that can help you identify your passions and strengths, and create a scenario that fits your talents.
Ask a friend to name three of your strengths
Jot them down. Next, think about what makes you happy. Is it baking, painting, playing music, or something else entirely? Share this passion with your friend, and have them describe a scenario that incorporates your strengths and your passion. The goal here is to create a vision that’s tailored to your unique talents.
Once you have this scenario, take a few minutes to imagine it as your real life. What do you like about it? What do you dislike? Be honest with yourself, and let your friend know what you’re thinking. Together, you can adjust the scenario until it’s perfect for you.
The beauty of this exercise is that it helps you define your calling. It gives you a goal to work towards, one that utilizes your strengths and makes you happy. Don’t rush through it - take the time to imagine and reflect until you’re completely satisfied.
- What are three strengths that others have identified in me?
- What makes me happy? What am I passionate about?
- What kind of scenario can I create that incorporates my passions and strengths?
- What are some positive aspects of this scenario?
- Are there any negative aspects that I should be aware of?
- How can I address them?