People say that your first reaction is the most honest, but I disagree. Your first reaction is usually outdated. Either it's an answer you came up with long ago and now use instead of thinking, or it's a knee-jerk emotional response to something in your past.
Well said. Of course it sucks. Your lived experience directed you there gosh knows how many years ago. Your first reaction is outdated and in need of new information.
What can you do about it?
- Practice active listening: When listening to someone speak, focus on understanding their perspective and try to engage with their ideas. This will help you to absorb the information more effectively... and update your first reactions with new information.
- Be curious: Approach new information and experiences with a sense of curiosity and openness. Try to look at things from different perspectives and be willing to challenge your own beliefs.
- Be reflective: Take time to reflect on what you have learned and how it relates to your own experiences. This will help you to process and retain the information more effectively.
So, your days of shooting from the hip are over. You can thank me later. Oh wait, no. You can thank me right now by subscribing to my website. It means a lot to me and you will receive a weekend digest, not a flurry of emails. Just one.